Embracing my singleness

Embracing my singleness

If you know me you know I am signal a Christian and a mom. I Like my life. It is simple. I do not have to put up with some on telling me what to do. I got the whole bed to my self. Most of all I do not have to hear anyone snore ( I hate snoring) One more thing about a two years ago I got a divorce. My ex husband was well not right for me, and if there is a woman out there for him more power to her because he drove me absolute nuts ( not to mention it debit) He wanted to wait to pay the bill the day there were due. He would not want to talk for days. But the night I had a head ache or I had a bad day at work. He would ramble for hours. He wanted to move like every month and not like down the street like to a different state. We just were not combatable. To be honest I married him because at the time I though he would be a good dad for my kid. But was the worst decision I have every made for both my son and myself. For the last 2 years I have just not wanted to date at all. So happy being single till about 2 months ago. Every thing is fine life is peachy Until Sunday. I would sit down for church. And every happy couple would have to sit right by ME. Holding hands singing together. I mean really do you not know your poop-bear nickname is just annoying. Then at service the pastor was talking about LOVE. Now really just pour salt in my wounds. Then the pastor said that on average it took 2 year to get over a divorce. How did the pastor know I was divorced for 2 years. Oh wait god knows everything. Well that was the nudge I needed to get back in the dating game. I prayed. So this guy was talking to me on myspace why not I will try it out. First date ok Second Ok. Little grabby he said He thought he loved me. Whooo Nelly. After our third date he was calling me his fiancé. oops had to drop that. Then the stocking started. Nothing bad just the none stop calling. The texting. But after 3 weeks it stopped. Ok god funny one. I prayed. Next date. He look just like Tony hauke. But had the personality of a door mat. Ok god. Why am I still signal. I not ugly. Would not hurt is I lost a few pounds. But all and all I am fair looking. I am funny ( and If you are one of the few who think I am not just keep it to yourself.) I am not dumb. I mean I read and stuff ( comics count too) and I am one kick ass mom. Wait that was it. The rode trip I am on right now the guy in passenger seat is my son. And my GPS the holy spirit ( that hit me today at church hence the blog) right now the focus of my life is my son. Teaching him to be a good man and to love Christ There will be a time when my son will sit in the back seat and my knight is shining armor with take the wheel but whether that is a year or ten years. I will be patient. Trust in my GPS and enjoy the ride. Gods got that sole mate for me out there and when I least expect it he will pop up. Right now I will embrace my singleness and independence. I will grow in Christ and walk with him. ( But if ant one know any good looking signal Christian men in the las Vegas area send them my way )

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Comment by JESSICA on June 17, 2009 at 9:00am: "A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing...." Proverbs 18:22. I recommend you read the book of Ruth...a man is not your focus, God should be...also read on the Virtuous woman in Proverbs 31...and ask yourself, am I virtuous?...

Comment by Mike metzger on June 16, 2009 at 5:00pm: ROFL! I never been married before but it sounds like you had a bad one.
Better be alone than with bad company.
I think your soul mate will find you. Don't rush things!
That's when we get in trouble.
Take good care of your son.
Mike

Comment by Brian Slutter on June 15, 2009 at 4:33pm: Hey Trish,

Sounds like you have a good sense of humor which come in handy in times like this. You know that you're doing the right thing by focusing on Christ for now. Someone once told me that God's time is always perfect, never too late or too early, but right on time. God looks through people's hearts and their intentions. So when He knows your really ready to be committed He will definitely bring someone special in your life and trust me you will be happy and glad that you waited on God. It's great to hear (or read) that your focus is on your son too because it comes God first, than your family. Keep on trusting God and He will work in your life. He says in His word that He doesn't want men to be alone, therefore making a helper for him. When we get married, God sees the couple as one person because He says that man leaves His mother and father only to cleave onto his wife. This is one of my favorite verses and a hope that I have for my future. A promise that God gave. Thank God for His promises!!! Anyway I want to encourage you to keep on doing the right things and keep your focus on God and your son!

Brian = )

Comment by Kirby on June 14, 2009 at 8:56pm: yup you are funny, cute too, sounds like you dont realy need a man, after 2 years, you have got your independance back, I have been single for a year now, I don't realy like it but I still love my wife I guess, but I enjoyed your blog it was cool, and it sounds like your son is a good man too, I dont live in Vegas, I hate that town, I was born there, I live in Utah about 4 hours away, and would like to visit sometime.

Comment by trish toner on June 14, 2009 at 8:21pm: most of it was ment to be funny thanks

Comment by Melissa Miller on June 14, 2009 at 8:10pm: I am enjoying my singleness too. I just got out of a relationship that I thought was good and I thought he would be good for my child. We were only together for a few months. To make a long story short, he broke up with me because he said he's not used to being with thick chicks like me. Every other girl he's dated has been skinny but also treated him like garbage from a dumpster. Now mind you, I have curves and yes I could probably stand to lose about 15 pounds but I'm not the way he tried to make it sound. Plus it took me by surprise being that he is about 340 pounds and is only about 5 foot 9. Needless to say now, he has been asking and asking and asking if he could get back together with me but I have no intentions on being back with him. I was a little sad and shocked when he broke up with me because there was so many things that I overlooked when I got with him becuause I know looks aren't everything, and he had all the qualities in a man that I wanted. But I recovered very very quickly i'm talking in a matter of a couple hours because I was reminded that any man I may date could possibly leave me, but God would NEVER leave my side. Not Ever.