WHEN A CHRISTIAN IS MARRIED BEFORE AND HAD WAS DIVORCED BECOUSE SHE CHEATED, IS IT POSSIBLE THAT GOD WILL OFFER HER ANOTHER OPPORTUNTY?

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Permalink Reply by John M. Edwards Jr. on July 12, 2010 at 10:39am

I believe that Jesus Christ carried her sins to the cross also. I believe the woman should acknowledge her sins and go to God and ask for forgiveness. It would be a good idea to ask forgiveness to the person she cheated on also even though he has gone on with his life. You gain respect for acknowledged your wrong doing. The woman I was married to was unfaithful. I know that people make mistakes. I have forgiven her and do not hold it against her. She never denied that she was having an affair. When confronted with it prior to our relationship breaking up, she acknowledge that she had been unfaithful to me. She never asked me for forgiveness. I do not know if she ever asked God for forgiveness. The next relationship she was involved in after the man she had an affair with did not want her after she and I broke up was with a decent man, but they were unmarried. She was also unfaithful to him. She got married to someone else after that relationship. She had a very trouble marriage in which she received physical abuse. It did not last long. The next relationship she had did not last long. I believe she just need to get her relationship with the Lord straigten out first before trying to go on with her life. It has been 18 years, since our relationship ended. Why you say that I not remarried? I had been making wrong decisions, choosing women to date that did not love the Lord as much as I did. The last women I dated talked like she love the Lord, had me fooled for a moment but she was not truly committed to the Lord. I haven't attempted to date in over two years. I've just been focusing on being the best instrument for Jesus Christ that I can be. I trust His word that is recorded in the six chapter of Matthew that states that if we seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, He will supply all our needs. God knows our every need, even the need of a companion. I trust that as I continue to put God first in my life, living according to His will with my whole heart, at the proper time, the Lord will bless me to meet the companion that He sees fit for me. In the meantime, I will continue to live my life trusting in God's word.

Permalink Reply by sandra peprah on July 15, 2010 at 6:02am

hi Edwards, you have never stopped blessing my heart with ur contributions. the last time u pose the question.....how can the Lord trust one of his loving children to you when you still hv not stopped certain habbits of urs even as a christian and l tell you it has been a guide/check to my life.
l pondered on what you said very carefully and new that as christians, we sometimes take things for granted. You have hit the nail right on the head and God bless you.
l got married very early in my life as a young christian to a friend who pretended to be a christian as he realised l had become born again. After my child was born he changed and started dating both old and young. At that point l decided to go back to school as the marriage was no longer working and at school, l fell into the hands of man to the detriment of my marriage.
Eventhough he was the first to break the marriage principles he decided we end the marriage.
He, at this moment has been married for so many years now but l still remain single and not in any relationship. This is against the back drop that l meet people who are interested, but ar not christians and therefore am always constrianed. Sometime l have felt that probably God will not give me another opportunity, but my husband was the first to cheat and besides l was not matured in my christian walk and therefore didnt know about the proverb 31 woman to have known that in all matters l needed to let God take the pre eminence.
Well, its my hope that God who is an omniscient God in his infinite sense will look upon me then as a baby christian and make the right man find me...Amen.
For now, what is important is to live , move and have my being in God.
God bless you brother

Permalink Reply by Yvette Papillon on August 31, 2011 at 12:32am

Hi John, you are doing the right thing my brother trust in God. We both have been down the same road and you was always their for the both of us during our seperation. I will never forget the letter you wrote to my x-husband and he didn't receive it in a way that would of saved our marriage. Anyway, have moved on and its been almost 6 years since the divorce and truly can say God is my foremost love. If we fall in love with God and run in His arms on day our desire to have a physcial relationship with a God fearing individual will happen. God will give us spouses in due time, and it will be the one that is right for you.

Permalink Reply by Jason Claus on July 12, 2010 at 10:39am

As far as I know. While God is a forgiving God, and will forgive us for our sins, that doesn't mean the same opportunities are provided for us any more. I have a study I posted awhile back. I hope is helps.


DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE

Is it permissible for a Christian to get divorced and then get remarried? God designed marriage and His original intention was the marriage vows to be permanent (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:4-6) and dissolved only by death. (Romans 7:1-3). God sees marriage so sacred and special that He intended it to last a lifetime! God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16). In the Old Testament, a person found guilty of committing adultery and breaking the marriage vow was stoned to DEATH! (Lev. 2:10) Remarriage was allowed to the innocent party (Deut. 24:1-4) In this passage we also see that in God even allowed divorce if the guilty spouse had been involved in sexual unfaithfulness that fell short of the actual act of adultery itself. The important note is that remarriage was allowed to the INNOCENT party. In the New Testatment, we see Jesus’ teaching on divorce in Matthew 19:4-9. Due to sin and the hardness of man’s heart, Jesus ALLOWED divorce when one mate had been guilty of fornication...or sexual sin with someone else other that your spouse...Even then, the ideal situation would be for the innocent partner to forgive the guilty party and try to restore the marriage. (Recall the Book of Hosea and the story of Gomer). God realizes that sometimes that is not humanly possible. No one can stay in a marriage where there is repeated unfaithfulness. Therefore, God allows divorce for SEXUAL UNFAITHFULNESS. Later on in I Cor. 7:15, 16 Paul gives another circumstance that would allow divorce - when the unbelieving partner DESERTS the believing partner. Paul is saying if the unsaved spouse no longer wants to stay married to the saved spouse and leaves the marriage....EVEN if sexual unfaithfulness has occurred or not...this divorce is allowed, remarriage is allowed to the innocent party...as it was allowed for sexual unfaithfulness. According to the Bible, REMARRIAGE is allowed for the innocent party when divorce has occurred due to the two Biblical reasons above: FORNICATION and DESERTION by an unsaved mate. Divorce for any other reason is a violation of God’s ideal marriage. State laws may allow divorce for irreconcilable differences or even ‘no fault’, but God’s law does not. Physical abuse, danger to the children, drug and alcohol abuse, refusal to work and support the family, are all reasons for SEPARATION...but not for divorce...UNLESS SEXUAL FORNICATION or DESERTION by the unsaved mate occurs. I suppose God feels that through prayer and God’s intervention possibly, the behavior of the spouse guilty of these acts can possibly be corrected and the marriage reconciled. These other reasons do not give the Christian Biblical reason to go out and get another ‘honey’ Any person GUILTY of divorcing and remarrying for any of these or any other unbiblical reasons is LIVING in ADULTERY (Mark 10:11-12), until asking and receiving God’s forgiveness by confessing the sin. What about the Christian who has been guilty of divorce and remarriage on unbiblical reasons? Of course, God forgives us of all our sins when we confess them to Him--including the sin of divorce (Colossians 2:13). However, simply because God forgives us does not remove the consequences of our actions on ourselves and on others. These consequences can often be very painful to all involved. There is often a heavy price to pay for violating God’s plan.

Permalink Reply by Jason Claus on July 12, 2010 at 10:47am

You see if we are the ones responsible for the divorce as long as the other party hasn't remarried we are allowed to reconcile ourselves with the person whom we are divorced from, but their is no allowance for the guilty party to remarry, because the Bible says that if we are to remarry we are living in adultry. It doesn't say because we haven't asked for forgivness we are in adultry, but that the circumstance of remarriage constitutes adultry. While many people love to believe that God's forgiveness cleanses all consequences it simply is not true.

Permalink Reply by sandra peprah on July 15, 2010 at 6:06am

hi Jason that was brilliant and l have taken note of the sermon on marriage, however l believe when christ said it was finished, he meant that the days when our sins were handed down from generations to generations are over and one can obtain forgiveness by confession,
thanks dear

Permalink Reply by Jason Claus on July 21, 2010 at 4:50am

this has nothing to do with generational curses, but present consequences. I've given you every verse about marriage and it speaks clearly on its own accord.

Permalink Reply by PROPHETESS CAROL on July 12, 2010 at 1:44pm

LORD THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR GRACE BECAUSE IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME! IN THE OLD TESTAMENT, MEN WERE ALLOWED TO DIVORCE THEIR WIVES BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS OF THEIR HEARTS ONLY AND STILL ARE! WHAT A SHAME!!! HEAR ME DEVIL AND HEAR ME GOOD! YOU ACCUSER OF THE BRETHREN! JESUS PAID THE PRICE FOR WHAT I HAVE DONE FROM MY BIRTH TO THE GRAVE AND LIKE IT OR NOT, THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT! BLESS THAT WONDERFUL NAME OF JESUS!!!!!! ..."GET THEE BEHIND ME SATAN BECAUSE THOU SAVOREST NOT THE THINGS THAT BE OF GOD BUT OF MAN"...IN MY CASE, I KNOW THAT GOD CAN AND HE WILL GIVE HER ANOTHER CHANCE... MY EX HUSBAND HAD BEEN CHEATING ON ME THROUGHOUT OUR MARRIAGE EVEN WITH A NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR AT ONE POINT. HE ALSO HAD A CHILD OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE THAT HE REFUSED TO ACKNOWLEDGE EXISTED WHEN I QUESTIONED HIM ON IT...I FOUND OUT ABOUT IT BECAUSE WHEN I WENT TO A DOCTORS APPOINTMENT...THE DOCTOR WAS NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT HE WAS DOING AND THE OTHER CHILDS NAME CAME UP ON THE SCREEN IN ORDER OF BIRTH ALONG WITH MY CHILDREN'S NAME...I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING TO THE DOCTOR, I JUST TOOK NOTE OF IT...NEITHER DID I TELL MY EX HOW I FOUND OUT ABOUT IT TO PROTECT THE DOCTORS GOOD NAME...HE HAD BEEN MISTREATING THROUGHOUT OUR MARRIAGE...DON'T GET ME WRONG, I WAS NO ANGEL BUT CHEATING ON HIM WAS THE FARTHEREST THING FROM MY MIND...

I AM SORRY THAT I HANDLED THE SITUATION THE WAY THAT I DID BUT I AM SURE THAT I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE....I AM NOT SPEAKING OF CHEATING ONLY, WE DO THINGS ON A DAILY BASIS THAT IF WE WOULD HAVE HAD THE DIVINE INSIGHT INTO THOSE SITUATIONS, WE WOULD HAVE HANDLED THEM DIFFERENTLY...I DON'T REJOICE IN THE FACT THAT I CHEATED ON MY EX BUT I KNEW THAT IT WOULD BE THE ONE THING THAT WOULD CAUSE HIM TO LEAVE AND STOP THE ABUSE...I COULD NO LONGER TOLERATE THE VERBAL ABUSE AND OTHER THINGS THAT WAS COSTING ME MY MENTAL STATE OF MIND TO STAY WITH HIM...MANY TIMES WHEN WIVES TURN UP DEAD IN MARRIAGES THE SIGNS WERE THERE ALL ALONG BUT THEY WERE IGNORING THEM...THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO I BELIEVE THAT GOD NEVER PUT TOGETHER BUT HAS ALLOWED FOR IT FOR A SEASON...I HAD MANY REASONS TO LEAVE MY EX BUT I COULD HAVE EXITED THE MARRIAGE IN BETTER STANDING WITH GOD AND NOT MAN!...THIS QUESTION NEEDS TO ALSO BE ASKED OF THE MEN AND NOT THE WOMEN ONLY....MEN CHEAT AT A HIGHER RATE THAN WOMEN...AND MANY ARE THE CULPRITS IN THE UNSEATING OF THEIR WIVES FROM THE THRONE OF "WIFEHOOD" INTO THE THROWS OF CHEATING BECAUSE THEY WERE CHEATING FIRST!!! THEY TREATED THEIR WIVES TREACHEROUSLY IN EVERY SINCE OF THE WORD!

CAROL =0)

Permalink Reply by sandra peprah on July 15, 2010 at 6:12am

hi dear, you have blessed my heart so much. the key word is if l had divine insght into issues, am sure l wld have handled the situation differently and wld hve left my marriage in better way. thanks to you and l thank God the for the first time in this forum, l have been able to tell my story since 1990