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Was my marriage over before it even started????
I didn't save sex for marriage..... Is this a reason why things aren't working????
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Permalink Reply by CK on -
Well, I am one of those people that feel that you should wait to have sex once you are married, but not everyone thinks like that and that is just how they feel, but I don't think the sex things plays the role on it's own, of why u ask is this the reason things aren't working out. It's like this in my opinino and please correct me if I am wrong, but I feel like this, if you have accepted the forgiveness from Christ for having sex out of marriage, then u get married u have to let that sin go and move on, because that is what God wants us to do. I have to say this and as a follower of Jesus point of view, I think the reason why a lot of marriages don't work out are because some people tend to just go and get married and they think that, that is the one they think God has chosen for them or they get married just because they get pregnant and have to do it for the baby. I think alot of marriages goes wrong because a lot of people are not waiting on God, in waiting I don't mean just sex alone I mean letting him guide you and letting him send the person he has for you, your way and not you going out searching for a mate, and some tend to go out looking and they catch all bad fishes. So I have to say no, you not waiting to have sex had nothing to do with your marriage going wrong. It's good to wait, but their are other reasons that a marriage doesn't work out. I pray that you seek God for that answer be blessed!!!
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Permalink Reply by CK on
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Your right Tammy thanks for catching that, it is indeed a fact!!!
Tammy Henson said:CK, it's not just a matter of opinion. It's fact. God tells us in His Word that sexual sin is against the body. So, you don't have to just keep saying it's your opinion - it's God's Word. You are correct. You was also correct in saying we should wait on God for the perfect spouse that He has for us. Life would be so much easier if we followed Him in the first place instead of asking Him to help us after the fact. I'm not referring to you Andrea. I'm actually on my 3rd marriage. My second one passed however but had I waited on the Lord, I wouldn't have married the first one.
CK said:Well, I am one of those people that feel that you should wait to have sex once you are married, but not everyone thinks like that and that is just how they feel, but I don't think the sex things plays the role on it's own, of why u ask is this the reason things aren't working out. It's like this in my opinino and please correct me if I am wrong, but I feel like this, if you have accepted the forgiveness from Christ for having sex out of marriage, then u get married u have to let that sin go and move on, because that is what God wants us to do. I have to say this and as a follower of Jesus point of view, I think the reason why a lot of marriages don't work out are because some people tend to just go and get married and they think that, that is the one they think God has chosen for them or they get married just because they get pregnant and have to do it for the baby. I think alot of marriages goes wrong because a lot of people are not waiting on God, in waiting I don't mean just sex alone I mean letting him guide you and letting him send the person he has for you, your way and not you going out searching for a mate, and some tend to go out looking and they catch all bad fishes. So I have to say no, you not waiting to have sex had nothing to do with your marriage going wrong. It's good to wait, but their are other reasons that a marriage doesn't work out. I pray that you seek God for that answer be blessed!!!
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Permalink Reply by PROPHETESS CAROL on -
ANDREA
I JUST SHARED THIS WITH FAYE AND I HOPE THAT IT WILL BE OF SOME HELP YO YOU TOO...I DON'T THINK THAT BEING SAVED EXEMPTS US FROM ANYTHING AND THIS IS A FALLACY THAT SO MANY MEN AND WOMEN HAVE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS...LIFE ISN'T FAIR... LETS FACE IT...BUT I BELIEVE THAT IF WE SEEK GOD FIRST AND WAIT THAT IT WOULD MINIMIZE SOME OF THE HURT AND PAIN THAT WE EXPERIENCE IN MANY RELATIONSHIPS....I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN HURT TOO BECAUSE OF WALKING IN MY OWN WAY....I DON'T CONDONE CHEATING...AND I DON'T BELIEVE THAT ANYONE SHOULD HAVE TO TOLERATE IT ESPECIALLY IN A TIME WHEN SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES ARE ON THE RAMPAGE...IN MY MOMS TIME...YOU COULD FORGIVE SUCH AN ACT AND MOVE ON BUT IN THIS DAY AND TIME IT CAN MEAN A SURE DEATH SENTENCE....WHEN I LOOK AT THE SITUATION WITH TIGER WOODS...I SHUTTER TO THINK OF WHAT THE CONSEQUENCES COULD BE FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE....
HOW DO YOU GO ABOUT CHOOSING FRIENDS??? PERSONALLY....I WOULD WANT SOMEONE WHO WOULD HAVE AS MUCH IN COMMON WITH ME AS POSSIBLE...I HAVE A SITUATION RIGHT NOW WITH AN OLD FRIEND AND I DO SAY OLD FRIEND BECAUSE I DO NOT HAVE THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS FEMALE THAT I ONCE HAD ....WE NOW LIVE TWO DIFFERENT LIFESTYLES....WE BOTH STARTED OUT MARRIED BUT DIVORCE HAS CHANGED BOTH OF US...AS LONG AS WE ARE TALKING ABOUT THINGS THAT DON'T MOUNT TO A HILL OF BEANS EVERYTHING IS FINE...BUT IF I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE WORD THEN A DISAGREEMENT OR ARGUMENT ENSUES???...SHE JUDGES ME BUT WHEN I SAY SOMETHING BACK TO HER...SHE GETS MAD...SO HERE I AM TRYING TO SEND HER A CHRISTMAS CARD BECAUSE ITS THAT TIME OF SEASON....AND IT SORTA HURTS BECAUSE JESUS DIED TO FORGIVE OUR SINS AND SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO ME...
MY SISTER ....I THINK WE ALL SEE THE SIGNS EARLY ON IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP BUT BECAUSE OF IGNORANCE OR NOT BEING TAUGHT ANY BETTER ...WE SETTLE.... SOMETIMES WE HAVE ALLOWED PEOPLE TO BECOME LIKE SECURITY BLANKETS AND WE DON'T WANT TO LET GO ....SO I WILL HAVE TO TRUST THAT MAYBE GOD WANTS TO DO A NEW THING IN MY LIFE....THATS WHAT I AM FEELING ANYWAY...THIS MAY MEAN LETTING GO OF AN ALMOST TWENTY YEAR RELATIONSHIP THAT I ONCE CHERISHED SO MUCH....IF WE WOULD REALLY AND TRULY LISTEN TO THE VOICE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT...WE WOULD NOT FIND OURSELVES IN MANY OF THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT WE FIND OURSELVES IN...HES TALKING BUT WE JUST CHOOSE NOT TO LISTEN AND TO OVERRIDE HIM.
JAMES 1:5
IF ANY OF YOU LACK WISDOM, LET HIM ASK OF GOD, THAT GIVETH TO ALL MEN LIBERALLY AND UPBRAIDETH NOT; AND IT SHALL BE GIVEN HIM.
TRIUMPHANT IN JESUS
YOUR SISTER AND FRIEND IN CHRIST
CAROL~A SONG OF PRAISE~
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Permalink Reply by Jason A on -
I wouldnt dwell on what you have done in the past, but work on what can be done now to save your marriage. If things arent working, you need to look at why they arent working. Look at the problems and see what the real issue is. You may regret the pre-marital sex, and if you feel you must regret it, i guess you can. But don't look too far into it. We all screw up. The important thing is learning from our mistakes. God wants us to be good, but he also knows we are only human and we make mistakes. I can't believe that God would make your marriage not work because you didnt save your self. You need to look at whats not working and go from there.
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Permalink Reply by PROPHETESS CAROL on
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ANDREA
I WANT YOU TO KNOW...I AM BY NO MEANS TELLING YOU TO WALK AWAY FROM YOUR MARRIAGE....I HAVE A ARTICLE POSTED IN WOMEN AND MEN WAITING ON GOD FOR OUR HUSBANDS AND WIVES...IT IS TITLED...MARRIAGE...FORNICATION....DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE...I AM SURE THAT IT WILL BLESS YOU IF YOU TAKE THE TIME TO LOOK AT THE TEN MINUTE VIDEO...I WISH YOU THE BEST IN THE RECOVERY OF YOUR MARRIAGE AND I PRAY THAT EVERYTHING WORKS OUT IN YOUR FAVOR.
GOD BLESS
YOUR SISTER AND FRIEND IN CHRIST
CAROL~A SONG OF PRAISE~ =0)
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Permalink Reply by Debbie Hasty on -
2Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
The above scripture to me is why some marriages do not work out. I know this is why my first two didn't, but God has blessed me with the husband he has given me now of 12 years. We sometimes get married for all the wrong reasons even though we feel like we are in love, but our emotions can be deceiving at times. When you start a relationship with a potential mate the first thing you want to do is to get to know each other first and become each others best friend and to have Christ in the middle of that friendship and then let the Holy Spirit guide the both of you and you will know when it's right.
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Permalink Reply by Heaven's Reign on -
Since you've confessed that you did not save sex for marriage, the question now is, have you asked for forgiveness? There could possibly be other factors that is leading up to why things aren't working in your marriage. Other factors such as trust, honesty, lack of communication.... and so forth. I don't know your situation nor do I know your husband.
I will tell you that when two people do get married, it's not only a vow that they are making to each other, they are also making that vow to God. And when a marriage is not according to God's standard, then it opens dorrways for Satan to walk in. And as we know, Satan is our enemy.
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