How much longer?????
He threatens me with divorce, always tells me to leave, but I still stand strong I left once for 2 weeks it didnt help anything only made things worse. How much longer do I live like this I pray and go to church invite him to church with me he doesnt go. He prays with me but only if I say the prayer then he will say amen. His grandparents own a christian radio station and he was brought up in church as was I, we both have lost our way, I guess you could say when we got married we didnt have God in the center of our marriage things worsened. I never thought I would ever come to a point like this in my life no one ever gets marrried with the intintions of getting divorced. The main problem right now is his friends he wants me to go and hang out with them but I just know I dont fit in. I try so hard to have fun when Im with him and his friends but all we end up doing is fighting because I become miserable and want to go home. Im struggling alot right now with my faith. I just want to be a believer and go to church read the bible be someone that Jesus wants me to be and I want the same for my husband. I know he needs somone to encourage him and I try I just dont think he listens to me I also dont think Im strong enough I cant keep this marriage alive by myself. I also think his friends are a bad influence that is another reason why I dont even wanna try to fit in because they dont follow the lord or go to church they dont have christ in there lives either Im not perfect I know that but Im trying to read the bible pray and go to church my husband wont even attempt to come with me what do I do??? He is so distant I feel that any moment he will hand me divorce papers. I feel that he cares more about his friends than his own wife. Please help any passages or chapters I could read in the bible????
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Permalink Reply by Heather_LIBAW on -
Hey Andrea, reading your article takes me back only a few years... I had grew up in a godly home and fallen away found myself married my son was barely one when we separated and i found out I was pregnant again. I tried to hold it all together too...but hun we can't do it....
In Nehemiah you will find the story of a man wanting to rebuild the wall around the city...he didn't have enough supplies or men to do the job but he knew the Lord was with him. He had everyone work on the part of the wall that was right outside of where they each lived. The wall ended up getting built in record time. I think so many times we loose ourselves in trying to hold together someone or something else...like a marrige or a husband. But we have to build the wall outside where we are first...if we dont have ourselves in the right place with God we cannot help anyone else. You have all of the right things going...reading God's Word, church, praying...now just keep standing firm in His truth, give him all of you not just the part thats not too hard to do. Keep your husband in prayer and resolve to do things God's way...nothing is impossible with God but we do have to give Him our all and leave the rest up to Him.
Your husband is in God's hands and so are you...Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength...chase God and the rest will follow. Once I gave my situation to God and sought my answer in the scriptures...every night I remember praying and verse by verse step by step God continued to guide my path. There are many things I still don't understand about the situations I went through but one thing I do know...looking back I can start to see the flattened grass turn into a path and the path to a walkway and walkway to a road now I praise God that im on the highway to salvation and living my life in step and laying everything I do at the foot of the cross just giving my best and letting God do the rest! -
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Permalink Reply by roger murray on -
ok .lord know you both already.lord thier in it already it have be up to both of you let god in to.it help to go to church then you not only one thier .you have church family to hepl also.i pray both of you.let god will done as it is in heaven
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Permalink Reply by Levi Lane on -
Hi Andrea. It's been a long time since I have written to you. This is the deal...Most people believe that marrage is an agreement between two people. It's not, it is a contract between you and God, between "him" and God. A marrage is a contract that you make with God to love the person in front of you forever. And "he" makes the same contract with God to do the same, love and keep you forever. It is not an agreement with your husband, like you promised him something, or your husband promised you something. You each promised God, that's what a marrage is. If either of you got married, and and one of you did not have God when you made that contract, the chances are that the marrage will not work between you two. The relationship between you and God, and your husband and God is vital, even before the marrage began. For either of you to seek God after you have made a contract with God, (it is possible, however), is putting the cart before the horse. If either of you did not have God, dishonor you conttact with God, the chance that the marrage will last the expected length, is very slim. You both may need to renew you contract with God, and include Him (God). He (God) must be the center of you relationship with your husband, in everything. The bible says not to do anything to deminish the spirit. If your husbands friends are not seekers of God, and they bring your spirit down, you don't have to, and shouldn't be with them. It also says that all men should be saved and come to the full knowledge of the glory of God. But, the sad fact is, that all men will not. Be strong my sister, my prayers are with you. Brother Levi.
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Permalink Reply by Sandy on -
I have to agree with Orlando, Seek the Kingdom of GOD first and all those things will fall into place. Please do not lose focus now. God is not done with you yet. Cry out to him he knows what is going on. He hears the prayers of the rightous. I am praying for you and remember always always be in prayer even if it is for a moment if you have to pray do so. I t will help you get thru. Talke his yolk upon for his yolk is easy and burden is light. Meaning give it to him let him handle it pray and stay intune with him when he says move you move but until he does you must be still and wait on him. He loves you
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Permalink Reply by PROPHETESS CAROL on -
ANDREA
NOONE CAN MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU...IT'S SOMETHING THAT YOU WILL HAVE TO DO FOR YOURSELF...IN A SITUTION LIKE THIS... I WOULD PRAY AND ASK GOD TO MOVE HIM OUT OF MY LIFE IF HES NOT GOING TO CHANGE BUT IT MAY NOT HAPPEN IN YOUR TIMING BUT IN GODS TIMING....I PRAYED THAT PRAYER OVER MY HUSBAND AND A WORD CAME FORTH THAT GOD WAS GOING TO SAVE HIM AND HE DID ABOUT A YEAR LATER...HE WAS HANGING OUT WITH HIS FRIENDS AND HE WAS CHEATING ON ME....SOMETIMES THINGS ARE JUST A TEST OF OUR FAITH...GOD CAN BE TRYING TO PERFECT SOME THNGS IN YOU LIKE PATIENCE....IF YOU FEEL AS IF YOU ARE NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO BE AROUND HIS FRIENDS THEN DON'T DO IT...YOU HAVE TO LEAVE SOME THINGS IN GODS HANDS AND LET HIM DO THE WORK AND NOT YOU...TRUST HIM TO WORK IT OUT AND HE WILL...
DON'T BE RELIGIOUS EITHER...THERE WERE SUNDAYS WHEN I WOULDN'T EVEN GO TO CHURCH BUT I STAYED HOME AND MINISTERED TO MY HUSBAND...I COULD SEE THAT HE WAS IN PAIN AND WAS A BROKEN MAN BUT I NEVER COMPROMISED MY CHRISTIAN BELIEFS......YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO COMPROMISE YOUR CHRISTIAN BEIEFS EITHER...THERE ARE SINNNERS THAT YOU CAN BE AROUND AND THERE ARE SINNERS WHO YOU CANT BE AROUND....YOU HAVE TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE AND IF THE SPIRIT OF CHRIST LIVES IN YOU THEN YOU WILL KNOW THE DIFFERENCE....HE WILL LEAD AND GUIDE YOU INTO ALL TRUTHS....THE QUESTION TO BE ASKED OF YOU IS... ONCE GOD GIVES YOU THE ANSWER...WILL YOU BE WILLNG TO ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON?? ESPECIALLY IF ITS NOT IN FAVOR OF THE MARRAGE...SO DON'T ASK FOR SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T WANT MY DEAR SISTER...PRAY AND TRUST GOD AND HE WILL SEE IT THROUGH TO FRUITION WHATEVER THE OUTCOME MAY BE.
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GOD IS NOT MAN, THAT HE SHOULD LIE; NEITHER THE SON OF MAN, THAT HE SHOULD REPENT: HATH HE SAID, AND SHALL HE NOT DO IT? OR HATH HE SPOKEN AND SHALL HE NOT MAKE IT GOOD.
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Permalink Reply by Ashley Grayson on -
1 Corinthians chapter 7 12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? Hope this will help -
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